Still whining about other DNA Testers without a tree? Consider this.

Seriously, don't go there.


So in the past couple weeks, I wrote about the people who are crabbing about others on Ancestry who do not either make their trees public, or have no trees at all, which I have dubbed Tested With No Tree, or TWNT.

Said complainers find it very rude of those TWNT people who are not sharing what they know.

How unfair is life that the complainers have shared their trees, but the TWNT people are causing them great consternation.

And I pointed out their problem is their own.  Because it is.  They created it.  Now they whine hoping that something will hear them and their needs.

As you can tell, I don't have a lot of sympathy of these people.  We ALL would love to have the answers we crave dished up and served to us.  How great would life be, right?

There is nothing that says anyone HAS TO upload a tree.  Nothing. Nada.

BUT, and this is the bigger consideration - what if the person/people you have been badgering to reveal their trees have a much better reason for not revealing what they know?  What if they aren't posting a tree because they don't know anything?

What I am writing about today is adoptees in search of their birth families

So how does someone without a biological family tree upload information that they don't have?

They don't.

And what if that person knows who one adoptive parent is, and is trying to honor that person's privacy, but is seeking the other adoptive parent?   How's that tree going work?

The greater point being is that most adoptees would, if they could upload their trees if they knew them, or if their births weren't shrouded in secrecy.

If you were to put your feet in the shoes of a person adopted in the State of New York - a state that guards the privacy of its adoption records at all costs, you would know that there is no way they can crack open their adoption files unless their birth parents or adoptive parents approve it.  In some cases, both sets of parents have to agree to it.

There are many reason why people don't have trees.  Some people don't care.  Some people worry about their privacy.  Other people have no idea who to put in their trees, and that is their quest in life.
So instead of complaining, think about the other reasons why, other than your own there is no tree there.  Contact them.  You may hold the secret key.  You may not.  But try and light a candle instead of cursing the darkness. And then move on.

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